The Healthy Habit we don't talk about
As a Holistic Lifestyle company, we are advocates of holistic sex; sex that leaves you confident, empowered and nurtured. Through our work, or the work of others; you may already be familiar with how sex relates to your spiritual, mental and emotional health. Now let’s look at how sex impacts your physical health as well.
Whether you're in a partnership or flying solo at the moment, we all can enhance our sexual energy for maximum vitality. Chinese medicine tells us that balanced sexual + creative energy (yes, they are the same!) enhances our Jing, which is our life essence. Our Jing is essentially stored in our kidneys by way of Eastern wisdom. By keeping our kidneys healthy and Jing flourishing, through herbs as well as tapping into our sexuality, we ooze with vitality from head-to-toe.
Jing and other organ systems are responsible for awakening our inner fire. Not only will a holistic lifestyle enhance your Jing and keep your sexual energy strong, as they work internally, they may also help to fortify your immune system, release stress and support your energy levels as you move through the world.
Improper regulation of our sexual energy depletes our Jing which can also in turn cause weakness in our kidneys. It is essential to keep our kidneys happy and nourished as they are the root of life. Strong sexual energy is needed for a juicier life and we have plenty of offerings and products that not only act as an aphrodisiac to awaken the senses but also help to nourish our kidneys.
The past few 'post-pandemic' years have seen so many people put their sex to the side too overwhelmed by what’s happening around them to ‘feel sexy’ and place a narrow focus on their health. Your sexual energy is an indicator of your overall health. For more vibrant health, consider that including sex as a part of your health and wellness will bring balance and a sense of being grounded to your life.
So why are we even talking about sex and your nervous system? Because sex is one of the best ways for any of us to live a vibrant and healthy life. Check out these ten research backed benefits of sex:
10 Research Backed Benefits of Sex
Boost immune system
Improve libido
Lowers Blood Pressure
Counts as Cardio
Lowers Heart Attack Risk
Lessens Pain
Reduces Risk for Prostate Cancer
Improves Sleep
Eases Stress and Anxiety
Improves Bladder Control (Women)
To make things a little easier and maximize the pleasure you're getting from sex, let go of your expectations of what it should look like and avoid forcing yourself to go through the motions of your usual sexual routine if it's not really working for you. Instead, pay attention to what your real needs are right now and what sensations would actually make you feel good.
And remember, its ok to not want to have sex sometimes. You might prefer masturbation or even abstinence these days, which is totally OK. Pay attention to what your body and soul really needs right now.
For many people, stress is a libido killer. When we're stressed out, it's much harder to get into that playful, indulgent, relaxed zone we usually need to be in to really enjoy sex. So often our nervous system is in survival mode and challenged to send messages of pleasure to our brain. Sex can however, also be a stress reliever or a distraction or a place of enjoyment during these tense times for some people.
However, many people are experiencing a diminished sexual functioning these days, which includes things like arousal, lubrication, and ability to orgasm. There are many reasons why that might be: Many people seek out sex as a way to relax, but it's possible that the overwhelming ambient stress of the uncertain times we are living in can make it too hard to enjoy sex, even if you want it and are having more of it. Research has even linked lower genital arousal to chronic stress and distraction.
That said, not all sex has to be great. If having more sex helps you relax and get some small iota of pleasure during this period of great struggle, go for it. It may not be the magic, mind-blowing sex you were having in your 'twenties', and that's OK. Like in so many other areas of our lives right now, it's important to go easy on ourselves and recognize that some things are just harder right now.
It’s important that we honor where we are during this time of upheaval and transition. Only when we acknowledge our current reality will we have the capacity to create a new one. And healing sexual trauma is at the intersection of attending to personal and collective trauma. We need to source ourselves somewhere, so that our energy is not entirely outgoing. When we are overdrawn, we get sad, exhausted, overwhelmed, resentful and angry. Sex can be the place and space where we Source ourselves.
Many people (all genders) tell me they simply don't want the sex they know or the sex they are being offered. AND it seems like too much energy to figure out how to make new requests, how to communicate, how to change the game, or find someone who is willing to accept our evolving selves.
I get it. It can be exhausting all the adjusting and reconfiguring. And yet, this is the place that can make life become alive, vibrant and full of self expression.
What is the sex that gives you energy? What is the sex that makes you come alive? What is the sex that powers you? That builds your sense of both connectedness and confidence?
If you're looking to take your sex to the next level, our flagship program of the Sacred EXchange; The Divine Initiation is an immersive experience that unfolds over six months and is designed to work directly with your nervous system, leaving you with Self-Mastery, and the ability to manifest your will through your orgasmic power. To find out more about this years experience, details are available here.
In Bliss & Joy,
Brandi
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